October 27, 2009

July 24, 2006

  • “Who I am is not as important as what I want.”

    -BORF

    The Mark Of Borf

    The mysterious, ubiquitous and eminently destructive graffiti artist
    known as Borf was arrested yesterday ( July 14th, 2005) after waging a months-long
    campaign that may have been intended to enlighten Washington, but
    mostly just confused us.

    The man primarily responsible for Borf
    is, it turns out, an 18-year-old art student from Great Falls named
    John Tsombikos, according to D.C. police inspector Diane Groomes. He
    was arrested along with two other young men in the wee hours of
    yesterday morning after officers received a tip that graffiti artists
    were spray-painting at Seventh and V streets NW.

    Approached by a reporter at D.C. Superior Court yesterday, Tsombikos
    refused to comment. One of the other men arrested, Richard Lee, 18,
    said, “Borf is dead.”

    Well, yes and no. According to Tsombikos’s
    mother, Kathleen Murphy of Great Falls, Borf was the nickname for a
    close friend of her son’s who committed suicide about two years ago.
    The Borf face featured in his graffiti — which many who’ve walked
    through Dupont Circle would recognize, and which looks somewhat like TV
    actor Jerry O’Connell — belongs to that young man. Murphy suggests
    that for her son, the Borf face and moniker came to stand for all that
    he felt was wrong with the world.

    Many who saw Tsombikos’s
    graffiti — including a huge five-foot-high Borf face that appeared on
    a Roosevelt Bridge sign this spring, and a 15-foot “BORF” above a
    Dupont Circle cafe — might suggest that, far from making the world
    better, he cost the city of Washington a lot of money.

    Dennis
    Butler of the D.C. Department of Public Works said the Borf tag
    prompted almost daily phone calls to the city call center. “He’s just
    all over the inner city,” Butler said.

    “Citizens are ecstatic about him being caught,” Groomes said.

    Tsombikos
    was arrested with Lee and another man who has not yet been identified,
    though Groomes says she believes Tsombikos is the primary Borf culprit.
    Leah Gurowitz, a D.C. Superior Court spokeswoman, said that Tsombikos
    and Lee were charged with a misdemeanor for defacing public or private
    property in connection with yesterday’s arrest.

    Over the past
    year, Borf graffiti became a touchstone for the city. Following the
    graffiti became a kind of urban Easter egg hunt. People took pictures
    of his work and posted them on Web sites. Bloggers speculated on the
    culprit’s identity and his motives. Was he man or woman, one person or
    many? What did Borf stand for?

    Some people were enraged and
    others were cheered by that mischievous Borf face and by the whimsical
    sayings like “BORF IS GOOD FOR YOUR LIVER,” or “BORF WRITES LETTERS TO
    YOUR CHILDREN.” (Borf seemed quite conscientious about matters of
    spelling and punctuation. )

    In four interviews over several
    months, a young man claiming credit for the Borf graffiti spoke
    extensively about why he did it. He did not give his real name. The
    Post was able to ascertain his identity as John Tsombikos
    independently, but did not publish a story because the man’s condition
    for granting interviews was anonymity. He agreed, however, that if he
    was arrested or his identity became public, The Post would be released
    from this condition.

    Over and over, the man who wanted to be
    known simply as Borf said his identity was not important. What was
    important was his message — an earnest though sometimes muddled mix of
    progressive politics filtered through a lens of youthful optimism.

    f you followed Borf graffiti carefully, and there are those in this
    city who did, you’d have noticed that he sort of disappeared in the
    last few months. That’s because, according to Borf himself in past
    interviews, as well as his mother yesterday, he was traveling in
    Europe, stopping off in Scotland to protest the G-8 summit. He returned
    to the Washington area Monday, his mother says.

    Reached at home,
    Murphy said she didn’t know her son had been arrested until a reporter
    called. She said he graduated from Langley High School in McLean in
    three years, and went to the Corcoran College of Art + Design last year
    before taking some time off. She said he had been avidly involved in
    peace marches and other protest efforts, and his graffiti appeared to
    be an outgrowth of that. She said she appreciated his artistic effort,
    though she told him that it wasn’t right to deface property.

    In the spring, Borf said in an interview that he was aware many
    people didn’t understand why he’d been defacing buildings, signs and
    newspaper boxes all over this city. It’s clear he liked being
    enigmatic, but he didn’t like being misunderstood. That’s why, on that
    particular day, he said he was mulling some sort of public explanation,
    perhaps in the form of a poster campaign.

    “I’ve got plans,” he
    said ominously, sitting out on U Street, eating a vegetarian burger
    from Ben’s Chili Bowl. “Maybe like a manifesto.”                                                         

    He wiped
    veggie-chili-covered fingers on his jeans, which were dotted with
    flecks of colored paint, then pulled out a silver paint pen and wrote
    EL BORFISMO on the rim of a garbage can.

    Borf would often tag
    things like that as he walked through the city, in broad daylight on
    busy streets. Because he did it openly and casually, passersby seemed
    not to notice. He cultivated the air of being everywhere but nowhere.

    He
    said he liked listening to people talk about the Borf phenomenon. One
    time, he was in a computer lab when the women behind him started
    Googling “Borf.” It made him feel quite powerful.

    “I feel like Batman or something,” he said.

    If
    you’ve seen Borf’s graffiti — the stencil of the little girl who holds
    a sign saying “Grownups are Obsolete” or the impish face that appears
    throughout the city — you, too, might be wondering what Borf’s message
    is. Once upon a time, Borf said, he was “just, like, some liberal, like
    anybody,” but then he started reading, and found out he really wanted
    to be an anarchist. He decided he doesn’t believe in the state,
    capitalism, private property, globalization. Most of all, he doesn’t
    believe in adulthood, which he considers “boring” and “selling out.”

    “Growing up is giving up,” he said. “I think some band said it.”

    Borf
    recently turned 18, a fact he revealed with hesitation because “I’m
    against age. It’s just another way of dividing people.” At least until
    recently, he lived at home — where exactly he would never say — and
    cut cardboard stencils on his parents’ living room floor. He spoke
    sneeringly of “rich people,” though sometimes when he parked in the
    city his parents gave him $14 for the garage.

    Borf’s graffiti
    appeared in unexpected places — the base of the Key Bridge, or a brick
    wall along a lonely, glass-strewn alley by the 9:30 club.

    Some of the work is in such well-trafficked places that you wonder
    how he didn’t get caught before. Granted, it takes only seconds to
    spray a stencil — press the cardboard cutout against the wall so
    there’s no drip, wield the can with your other hand — but still. On
    pillars outside a bakery just north of Dupont Circle on busy
    Connecticut Avenue? On the sign over the Roosevelt Bridge? For that
    one, Borf had to get onto a catwalk that’s maybe 20 feet in the air and
    spray not one but two layers of paint to make a three-dimensional
    half-face that seemed to have just peeked in front of the sign. The
    eyes danced, as if asking, “Do you really want to go to work today?”

    (After
    a few weeks, the stencil was “buffed,” which is the word graffiti
    artists use when someone removes their work. Borf didn’t seem to get
    nearly as upset about buffing as he did when peers scribbled their
    graffiti over his, which he considered exceedingly disrespectful.)

    Borf considers himself a crusader for youth; he drew inspiration
    from the children’s author Shel Silverstein and from something called
    situationism, an obscure avant-garde movement popularized in 1960s
    France.

    He said in the spring that he’d been reading a book by
    the situationist Guy Debord “about modern capitalism” and “how the
    status quo is maintained and perpetuated by a series of spectacles.”
    Borf often finished his graffiti early in the morning, just in time to
    see a spectacle he despises — rush hour. “People all heading
    downtown,” he said. “Like, it’s ridiculous if you think about it. Like,
    Orwellian-ridiculous. And they do this with so-called free will.”

    His clothes are usually frumpy and speckled with paint, and the baseball cap covering his dark hair has a broken band .
    He is fond of phrases like: “Property is theft, as Prudhomme says.” He
    labels the Cosi cafe chain “boojy” (for bourgeois) and despises
    Starbucks. (“Instead of police on every corner we have Starbucks on
    every corner,” he says.) He thinks young people have it really bad. He
    hated high school, which is why he finished early, taking his last few
    courses online. It bothers him that those younger than 18 can’t vote,
    “as much as I don’t believe in voting or anything.” He complained that
    folks in stores assume “all young people shoplift,” and when he’s
    reminded that he himself shoplifts spray paint, he says that’s just
    more evidence of how messed up society is.

    He said he was an
    activist long before he got into graffiti. The first protest he
    attended was against capitalism in September 2002. It’s possible he
    would have been arrested if he’d gotten there on time, he said, but the
    protest was “too early.”

    Borf scrupulously followed media
    coverage and Internet rumors about him and was pleased to be contacted
    by a reporter (“wow!” he typed when first messaged through the graffiti
    Web site StencilRevolution.com). But he refused to reveal his real
    name. For one thing, he feared getting arrested. He also knew much of
    his appeal lay in the mystique — he is Borf, master illusionist,
    omnipresent but invisible. To maintain the mystery, he sidestepped
    questions about what “Borf” meant, if anything, and how he scaled
    rooftops. He offered clues and then backtracked, contradicting himself,
    or shrugging and saying “secret.”

    He imagined himself like the
    Zapatistas, the Mexican rebels who cover their faces. “Who I am is not
    as important as what I want,” he said.

    Some time ago, someone
    placed an “I Saw You” ad in the Washington City Paper, saying, “Who are
    you BORF? . . . Let’s meet.” On Flickr.com, a Web site where people
    share their photo collections, there were hundreds of photos of Borf’s
    graffiti, with comments such as, “He keeps me entertained as I ride the
    metro. go borf!” and “Are you sick of this dork yet?”

    The face is
    Borf’s most striking signature in the District. There’s a playfulness
    to the expression and an artistry to the image. Sometimes the face
    appears alone and sometimes in different contexts, like on the image of
    a teenager holding a can of spray paint.

    Because of the very nature of graffiti, it’s hard to know how much of the Borf oeuvre
    can be attributed to this one teenager. To bolster his claim that he’s
    the real guy, he brought along his hand-cut cardboard stencils to
    Capital City Records on 10th and U streets, where he was spray-painting
    an installation for a street art show organized by a graffiti artist
    named Cory Stowers. Borf unfolded a cardboard stencil crusted with
    spray paint and almost as tall as his own 6-foot-1 frame. It was the
    Borf face on the body of Black Panther Huey P. Newton holding a rifle.


    The graffitist himself, albeit disguised, next to one of his tags on U Street.

    Borf
    claimed credit for graffiti in New York City, Raleigh, N.C., and San
    Francisco. He is familiar with Manhattan, he said, having lived on the
    Upper East Side until he was 10. As for San Francisco, he said, he and
    a friend took Greyhound.

    Over time, there was so much of his
    graffiti, a Borf backlash emerged. Borf said he’s not responsible for
    graffiti saying “Borf is gay,” and he certainly didn’t write “Borf
    hates God” on a church. In February, a 27-year-old man was arrested for
    writing anti-Borf graffiti on the back of a sign in Logan Circle. He
    got as far as “Borf is a do-” before the police caught up with him.

    Borf
    considers this his unwitting legacy: He’s democratizing graffiti.
    People are decorating the District’s streets, even if it’s just to make
    fun of him.

    What will he do when he gets older? he was asked months before he was arrested.

    I’m not older,” he said.

    To see more of his Art <—–Click here.


July 12, 2006

  • Five- O got me shook.

    So last night i was driving home from a nameless place with a nameless female, when all of a sudden a latino crosses my lane attempting to make a left turn. and i think it was one of those non-english speaking ones, well anyway this idiot just stops in my lane blocking my right of way. I, having a short temper started yelling and airin’ this alien out with already half of my body hanging out the window; yeah.. im an asshole behind the wheel. So in his natural response he starts talkin’ shit back to me, then asudden my perspective changes with a tint of blue lights and strobe like lights comming from behind me. Surely enough it was a motha fuckin POlice so i sink back in my seat all shook son. Expecting the worst i thought id get a ticket somehow, but nope…. he pulled right past me and pulled the nacho over. yeah it was cinco de mayo for me.

    Interpretation

    My infantile drawing


    thought id spit you bastids a little geography. found it on someones xanga the other day.


    FYI: this entry is racist.

July 10, 2006

  • UPDATE OF MY LYFE in vague description.



    • Lately I’ve just been enjoying everything and taking everything in like I’ve never done before. Its almost surreal.
    • Old habits die hard, and when they do…you pick another one up right away.
    • I don’t know how I went without a cell phone for so long. its fcukin bananas.
    • I’m officially tan now so all you bitches who called me…”vampire/transparent/pale ass nigga/Casper/glow in the dark..etc!”   kiss my ass…..that’s still the only pale part of my body. hahaha
    • Its been said before and ill say it again but white “folks” know how to get down and get crunked… but one thing they cant do is dance.
    • Journey Rocks! 80′s baby! 07.07.06
    • Too many dames too many names too many came too many went I don’t remember most cuz I was so bent! psyche?
    • Being single never felt so good.
    • Summers over for me…Time to elevate and stop wasting my TIME!


    The Reason why i have a fat belly….
    Beer + good food = Beer gut
    Beach food/4th of July drinkage + food = fat ass


    Domestic Beers
    Brand % Alcohol Calories/12 oz Carbohydrates
    (grams)
    Anheuser Busch Natural Light 4.2 95 3.2
    Anheuser Busch Natural Ice 5.9 157 8.9
    Blue Moon 5.4 171 12.9
    Bud Ice 5.5 148 8.9
    Bud Ice Light 4.1 110 6.5
    Bud Light 4.2 110 6.6
    Budweiser 5.0 145 10.6
    Busch Beer 4.6 133 10.2
    Busch Ice 5.9 169 12.5
    Bucsh Light 4.2 110 6.7
    Colt 45 Malt Liquor 6.1 174 11.1
    Coors Banquet Beer 5.0 142 10.6
    Coors Light 4.2 102 5.0
    Genesee Beer 4.5 148 13.5
    Genesee Cream Ale 5.1 162 15.0
    Genesee Ice 5.9 156 14.5
    Genesee Red 4.9 148 14.0
    George Killian’s Irish Red 4.9 163 13.8
    Keystone Premium 4.4 108 5.0
    Keystone Light 4.2 104 5.1
    Keystone Ice 5.9 143 6.6
    Magnum Malt Liquor 5.6 157 11.2
    Michael Shea’s 4.62 145 13.0
    Michelob Amber Boch 5.2 166 15.0
    Michelob Beer 5.0 155 13.3
    Michelob Golden Draft 4.7 152 14.1
    Michelob Golden Draft Light 4.1 110 7.0
    Michelob Honey Lager 4.9 175 17.9
    Michelob Light 4.3 113 6.7
    Michelob Ultra 4.1 95 2.6
    Mickey’s Fine Malt Liquor 5.6 157 11.2
    Miller Genuine Draft 5.0 143 13.1
    Miller Genuine Draft Light 4.5 110 7
    Miller High Life 4.7 143 13.1
    Miller High Life Light 4.2 110 7
    Miller Lite 4.2 96 3.2
    Milwaukee’s Best 4.5 128 11.4
    Milwaukee’s Best Light 4.5 98 3.5
    Milwaukee’s Best Ice 5.9 144 7.3
    O’Doul’s 0.4 70 13.3
    Old Milwaukee Light 3.8 114 8.3
    Old Milwaukee Beer 4.5 146 12.9
    Olde English 800 Malt Liquor 5.9 160 10.5
    Pabst Blue Ribbon 5.0 153 12.01
    Pete’s Wicked Ale 5.3 174 17.7
    Red Hook ESB 5.77 179 14.15
    Red Hook IPA 6.5 188 12.66
    Rolling Rock Extra Pale 4.6 142  
    Rolling Rock Premium Beer 4.5 120 10.0
    Sam Adams Boston Lager 4.75 160 18.0
    Sam Adams Boston Ale 4.94 160 19.9
    Sam Adams Cherry Wheat 5.2 166 16.86
    Sam Adams Cream Stout 4.69 195 23.94
    Sam Adams IPA 5.93 175  
    Sam Adams Light   124 9.7
    Sam Adams Pale Ale 5.25 145  
    Schlitz Beer 4.7 146 12.1
    Schlitz Light 4.2 110  
    Schlitz Malt Liquor 6.2 185  
    Sierra Nevada Pale Ale 5.6 200 12.3
    Sierra Nevada Porter 5.6 200 15.7
    Sierra Nevada Stout 5.8 210 19.4
    Yuengling Ale 5.0 145 10
    Yuengling Porter 4.5 150 14
    Yuengling Premium Beer 4.4 135 12
    Yuengling Light 3.8 98 6.6
    Yuengling Lager 4.4 135 12
    adapted from http://www.beer100.com/beercalories.htm
    Imported Beers
    Brand % Alcohol Calories/12 oz Carbohydrates
    (grams)
    Amstel     10.65
    Amstel Light 3.9 99 5.33
    Bass & Co’s Pale Ale 5.5 160  
    Beck’s Beer 5.0 143 10
    Beck’s Light 3.8 103 6.1
    Beck’s Dark 4.8 146 11.0
    Carlsburg     7.8
    Carlsburg Light     9.9
    Coopers Pale Ale     5.9
    Corona Extra Beer 4.6 148 13.99
    Corona Light     5.00
    Dos Equis XX Imported Beer 4.7 149  
    Dos Equis XX Special Lager 4.9 156  
    Foster’s Lager 5.1 156 11.0
    Grolsch Lager Beer 5.0 145 9.5
    Guiness Draught – Bottle   126 9.9
    Guinness Extra Stout 4.27 153 17.4
    Harp 4.55 142  
    Heineken Lager Beer 5.0 150 11.5
    Heineken Special Dark Beer 5.1 170  
    Labatt’s 50 5.3 153 9.9
    Molson Canadian Beer 5.1 153  
    Molson Golden Beer 6.04 170  
    Molson Light 2.41 82  
    Moosehead Canadian Lager Beer 5.0 153  
    Nordik Wolf Light 4.7 110  
    Red Stripe Lager Beer 5.0 153  
    Sheaf Stout 5.2 174 18.8
    Stella Artois 5.2   12.78
    St. Pauli Girl Beer 4.9 148 8.7
    St. Pauli Girl Dark Beer 4.8 150  

    One day i will try each and every one of these beers.

    Peace tha FCUK out
    p.s. sorry no pictures my indian giver took it and ran.
    wait till i get one

March 29, 2006

  • Copy and pasted







    I never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men and women differ so much. And I never have figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing. I have never figured out why men think with their head and women with their heart.

    FOR EXAMPLE: One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into bed.

    Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says “I don’t feel like it, I just want you to hold me.”

    I said “WHAT??!! What was that?!”

    So she says the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear… “You’re just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man.” She responded to my puzzled look by saying, “Can’t you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?”

    Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.

    The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, big unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits. She couldn’t decide which one to take so I told her we’d just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes, so I said lets get a pair for each outfit. We went onto the jewelry department where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you…she was so excited. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was testing me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn’t even know how to play tennis. I think I threw her for a loop when I said, “That’s fine, honey.” She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all of the excitement. Smiling with excited anticipation she finally said, “I think this is all
    dear, let’s go to the cashier.”

    I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, “No honey, I don’t feel like it.”

    Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled “WHAT?”

    I then said “honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while. You’re just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman.” And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added, “Why can’t you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?”

    Apparently I’m not having sex tonight either….but at least that bitch knows I’m smarter than her.

March 22, 2006

March 7, 2006

  • 10 relationship myths

     



    MYTH ..1: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP DEPENDS ON A GREAT MEETING OF THE MINDS
    You will never see things through your partner’s eyes because you are two entirely different people. You are genetically, physiologically, psychologically and historically different.


    You will not solve your relationship problems by becoming more alike in your thinking. Men and women are wired differently. Attempting to blur your fundamentally different viewpoints is unnatural and even dangerous.


    Recognize that a relationship is far more enjoyable when you’re with someone who enriches your life, not simply reflects it. Appreciate your differences.


    MYTH ..2: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP REQUIRES A GREAT ROMANCE
    Yes, your life with your partner should include plenty of romance. But don’t kid yourself and expect an unrealistic Hollywood fairytale. The truth is that in the real world, being in love is not like falling in love.


    Falling in love is only the first stage of love. It’s impossible to remain in that stage. A mature relationship will shift from dizzying infatuation to a deeper, more secure love.


    Don’t make the common mistake of thinking that when the initial wild passion fades you aren’t in love anymore. The answer is not to start a new relationship so you can recapture that emotional high with someone else. The answer is to learn how to move on to the next stages of love for a different but richer experience.


    MYTH ..3: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP REQUIRES GREAT PROBLEM-SOLVING
    Don’t fall into the trap of believing that you and your partner can’t be happy if you can’t resolve your serious disagreements. Ninety percent of problems in a relationship are not solvable.


    There are things that you and your partner disagree about and will continue to disagree about. Why can’t you once and for all resolve these issues? Because in order to do so, one of you would have to sacrifice your values and beliefs.


    You can simply agree to disagree and reach “emotional closure” even though you haven’t reached closure on the issue.



    MYTH ..4: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP REQUIRES COMMON INTERESTS THAT BOND YOU TOGETHER FOREVER
    There is nothing wrong with your relationship if you don’t share common interests and activities.


    If you and your partner are forcing yourselves to engage in common activities but the results are stress, tension and conflict, don’t do it!



    MYTH ..5: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP IS A PEACEFUL ONE
    Don’t be afraid to argue because you think it’s a sign of weakness or relationship breakdown. Even the healthiest couples argue.


    If approached properly, arguing can actually help the relationship by (a) releasing tension and (b) instilling the sense of peace and trust that comes from knowing you can release feelings without being abandoned or humiliated.


    Instead of worrying about how many times you argue, worry about how you argue. Here are some guidelines:



    Don’t abandon the issue and attack the worth of your partner during an argument.


    Don’t seek conflict because it’s stimulating.


    Don’t pursue a take-no-prisoners approach in your arguments.


    Don’t avoid achieving emotional closure at the end of an argument.


    MYTH ..6: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP LETS YOU VENT ALL YOUR FEELINGS
    Getting things off your chest might feel good, but when you blurt something out in the heat of the moment, you risk damaging your relationship permanently. Many relationships are destroyed when one partner can’t forgive something that was said during uncensored venting.


    Before you say something you might regret, bite your tongue and give yourself a moment to consider how you really feel. The things we say while we’re letting loose often don’t represent how we really feel and shouldn’t be communicated especially if they are potentially destructive.


    MYTH ..7: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX
    The belief that sex is not important is a dangerous and intimacy-eroding myth. Sex provides an important time-out from the pressures of our daily lives and allows us to experience a quality level of closeness, vulnerability and sharing with our partners.


    Sex might not be everything but it registers higher (90 percent) on the “importance scale” if it’s a source of frustration in your relationship. If your sex life is unfulfilled, it becomes a gigantic issue. On the other hand, couples that have satisfying sex lives rate sex at only 10 percent on the “importance scale.”


    Don’t restrict your thinking by considering sex to be something that only consists of the actual physical act. Touching, caressing, holding hands and any means by which you provide physical comfort to your partner can all be viewed as part of a fulfilling sex life.


    MYTH ..8: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP CANNOT SURVIVE A FLAWED PARTNER
    Nobody’s perfect. As long as your partner’s quirks are non-abusive and non-destructive, you can learn to live with them.


    Instead of focusing on your partner’s shortcomings, remember the qualities that attracted you in the first place. Perhaps some of these idiosyncrasies were part of the attraction? Just because a behavior isn’t mainstream, doesn’t mean that it’s toxic to the relationship.


    Be careful to distinguish the difference between a partner with quirks and one with a serious problem. Serious problems that are destructive and abusive include substance abuse and mental/physical abuse. Unlike idiosyncrasies, these are not behaviors you should learn to live with.


    MYTH ..9: THERE IS A RIGHT WAY AND A WRONG WAY TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP GREAT
    Nothing could be further from the truth. There is no definitive “right way” to be a good spouse, good parent, or to handle any relationship challenge that life throws you.


    Do what works for you rather than following some standards you might have read in a book or heard from a well-meaning friend. If what you and your partner are doing is generating the results you want, stick with it. If both of you are comfortable with the principles that work, you can write your own rules.


    Remember not to be rigid about the way in which you accept your partner’s expressions of love. There is no “right way” for someone to love you. The fact that your partner expresses feelings differently doesn’t make those feelings less genuine or of less value.


    MYTH ..10: YOUR RELATIONSHIP CAN BECOME GREAT ONLY WHEN YOU STRAIGHTEN YOUR PARTNER OUT
    Don’t fall into the trap of believing that if you could change your partner, your relationship would be better. You are, at the very least, jointly accountable for the relationship.


    Let go of the childlike notion that falling in love means finding someone who will be responsible for your happiness. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness.


    If your relationship is distressed, the most important person for you to change might be yourself. Once you identify the payoffs you are subconsciously seeking with destructive behavior, you can choose to remove them from your life.

February 7, 2006

December 21, 2005

  • Not to sound self-centered in anyway, I feel as if at one point in time the whole world was watching me, my every step, my every thought provoked action. I know it may be a little exaggerated, but it’s the truth. People watch other people in society; it all accumulates to jealousy, envy and hate. We love to hate and hate to love others then the apple of my eye. Why is that? I am not saying that it is nothing but a cruel world out there; therefore, it all comes down to how you carry your self for the outcome of how others treat you! What a wicked world. But I am a sole survivor, and no one can take that away from me.

    I learned that you can know a person in and out, as if you truly believed to know their inner-soul and out. But that is something impossible to accomplish.
    For some, love is not enough.
    For some, time is not enough.
    For some, you are not enough.

    Self conscience is a bitch but something u should never ignore.





    ………that’s if you got one.







August 18, 2005

  • Dear summer, I know you gon’ miss me
    For we been together like Nike Airs and crisp tees
    S dots with polo fleeces
    Purple label shit with the logo secret
    Gimme couple years, shit I might just sneak in
    A couple words and like peaches and herb
    We’ll be reunited and it feels so hood
    Have the whole world saying “How you still so
    good?”
    Well I do this in my slumber summer
    I ain’t none of these half-assed newcomers, you know how I
    do summer

     

    …… I’m done for now, so one for now
    Possibly forever, we had fun together
    But like all good things, we must come to an end
    Please show the same love to my friends
    Dear summer

     

    -CEO of Def Jam

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